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Opening Up To the Unknown

October 20, 2016

By Jacinta Hin

The other day, I had a craniosacral therapy session, a gentle bodywork method to detect and correct imbalances and encourage self-healing. At the end of our session, the healer told me that I am focused on what I (believe I) know, primarily living in my head, and ignoring what he called, the other 95% of what is out there for me: information conveyed via the subtle language of body, heart and soul, for instance. Or, the mysterious wisdom and ways of the Universe.

In the weeks that followed, both the healer’s words and the work he did on me settled more deeply. Of course, I had sought his help for a reason. I was physically and emotionally blocked and needed a way out. Embracing neglected sources and knowledge, I realised, would not only help me unblock and restore balance but also pave the way for change and new choices.

Pondering on this, I began to understand that living within the walls of what we know and believe, we remain the same; there is no movement, no change. Look to the other side of those walls, and the dynamics of life will shift, away from stale, repetitive thoughts and always looking at reality through the same lens. We begin to experience ourselves differently, to discover new ways of approaching situations and to open up to whatever is true and possible and wants to emerge.

In those same weeks, I forgave myself for getting into this state of self-limiting “stuckness”. Forgiveness is important, I recognise, if we want to evolve and become whole. To accept everything about ourselves —including the less flattering parts of our personality and behaviour— is not only a key to healing but also frees us from the past so that we can move on. Acceptance, by the way, does not mean being complacent. On the contrary, it is the starting point of change.

I am slowly leaving my head space, connecting with the unchartered 95 percent. How about you? Are you ready to tap and step into the unknown?

Here are some ideas to get started:

  1. Let go of the need to know (best) and always having an answer. Give a situation “soak” time. Approach a dilemma with questions instead of a solution.
  2. Ask yourself daring questions that crack you open and wake up your heart. Preferably of the truth-revealing and status-quo-challenging kind. The ones that take you out of your comfort zone and lead you to new information about yourself and what is possible for you.
  3. Take a break from being on your default-automatic-pilot. Can you look at yourself through a fresh set of eyes?
  4. Listen to the whole of you. Not just your rational mind. Can you have a conversation with the painful parts of your body? Unravel the coded messages from your heart?
  5. Apply new tools. Do something out of character. Let your darkest feelings be a source of inspiration. Be silent when you’re about to share an opinion or offer advice. Pick up a new interest — yoga, painting, journaling…or revive an old passion.

Ironically, getting comfortable with not knowing helps me accept life for what it is. I no longer need reality to comply with my views on how it should be. I see and feel more. I am more honest with myself. Knowing there is so much that I don’t know inspires me to be a seeker and explorer of life again. It makes me humble too. And curiously enough, excited about all that is still ahead and out there for me.

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About the author: Jacinta Hin was born in the Netherlands and has been living in Tokyo, Japan, since 1989. Her professional background is in human resources, career management, and coaching. She is passionate about helping people, herself included, discover new perspectives of possibility, move to embracing and working with their transitions, and designing and realizing changes aligned with who they truly are and what they want from their lives.
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