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The Art of Moving On

April 15, 2015

By Jacinta Hin

For some time now I have felt ready for a change in my life. I am not in a bad place, nor am I in a hurry, but I am moving on to a new phase. 2015 is my year of transition. This decision leaves me ample time to prepare and take the first steps.

Few among us live in perfect harmony with the natural rhythm of life. Even if we know it’s time to move on, we’re not always willing to do so, preferring the familiarity of our current reality over an unknown future. We resist change because we’re afraid of what we could lose, unsure of what might be in the cards, or scared of facing an uncomfortable truth.  Sometimes we cannot be bothered. Too much work, we say. Not worth the risk, the pain, the hassle.

But what to do when we reach a near-tipping point? When we’re no longer able to deny that our life is not working well or, at least, is in need of some adjustment?

Our authentic path in life wants to unfold in a natural and on-going manner. There are times to be content with the way things are and times when we need to be more pro-active in making changes.

Moving on is a process of getting ready and preparing for a different way of being, doing and thinking.  First, we must become aware and awake, and entertain the idea of something new. Next, we need to bring ourselves to a place where we can make the necessary changes. In between lies a period of transition.

How do we know when it’s time to move on?

Watch for signs that a change is due. Are you bored, disengaged, unhappy, unmotivated? Complaining a lot?  Do you keep walking in circles, doing the same thing and having the same thoughts day after day, hitting the same walls again and again? Do you feel ready for a change?

Moving on is liberating but also hard to do. We must say goodbye, let go, and enter into unknown and untested waters. That is scary and comes with difficult feelings, including sadness, fear, doubt, nostalgia, regret, and guilt. Feelings we prefer not to have.

Furthermore, we often fear the reaction of others, forgetting how forgiving and accepting others often are of us. When we move on, we may inspire them to do the same. People who are right for us move along with us.

Imagine what would become possible if you left a situation that no longer inspired you. Life is fluid. You’re not supposed to stand still. You move through life, and life moves through you. That’s how you grow and develop into who you are.

The key to successfully moving on, I’ve come to believe, lies in deeply loving yourself and all that you have created so far, including flawed and messy situations. Accept conflicting and painful feelings as natural so they don’t hold you back.

How about it? Is it time for you to move on?  What, if you felt boundless, would you be moving on to?

Also by Jacinta:

- How Did 3/11 Change Me?

LABELS:   Change   Feelings   Life   Life Path   Moving On   Signs   Tipping Point   Transition  
About the author: Jacinta Hin was born in the Netherlands and has been living in Tokyo, Japan, since 1989. Her professional background is in human resources, career management and coaching. She is passionate about helping people, herself included, discover new perspectives of possibility, move to embracing and working with their transitions, and designing and realizing changes aligned with who they truly are and what they truly want from their lives.
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