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Where Are You in Life?

February 18, 2014

By Jacinta Hin

Are you in your dream job or dreaming about a new career?  Do you spend most of your time on what matters, or are you living from task to task, ticking of the to-dos as the days go by? Are you content, on top of your game, or ready for a change?

In other words, where are you in life?

In our busy lives, we easily forget to pay the occasional visit to core questions like the ones above. I know I do. When was the last time you had a serious sit-down with your self?

Life is fluid and always changing. Ideally we move along and through in tune with its natural rhythm. In reality many of us live more in staccato, functioning in a reflexive manner.  We stay in limiting situations, ignore issues, fail to see opportunities and forget to plan our next moves, occupied and prone to distractions within the relative comfort of choices once made.

Tempting as it may be to stick to life as we know it, now and then we must push life’s pause button and review our reality. Recognize what works and what needs attention. Zoom in on the bigger picture, dust off old dreams, examine habits and behaviours that may block the way of health and happiness and achieving goals.

When we take note of where we are in life, we connect with who we are on a soul-level. We can make immediate adjustments and prepare for bigger changes ahead. Nostalgia for the past could make way for a renewed appreciation of our current situation and a new perspective on what is possible. We may experience a deeper sense of aliveness than usual.

Facing reality can be daunting, painful even. But it also opens doors to new insights and understanding of the unique meaning of life. A fresh idea could arise, an old dream may make a reappearance.

Build in regular moments of self-reflection. Daily, weekly, monthly… whatever works for you.

Here are some easy tools to help you get into the habit.

  1. Write -  when we ‘empty’ our thoughts onto the paper (or computer) we keep them. We also create some distance between the “thinker’ and the ‘thoughts’, allowing deeper examination. Choose a writing practice like morning pages, journaling, or the soul-searching Proprioceptive Writing.
  2. Move – a leisurely walk or change of surroundings takes me instantly into reflective mode. For you it may be a trip to the gym or more exotic travels.
  3. Meditate – in stillness we connect with our deeper selves. Remove noise and resist temptation to escape from this sacred self-space. For newbies and distraction-addicts meditation can be hard, but the rewards are worth the pain (believe me).
  4. Ask – whether you’re alone or in conversation with a person you trust, throw in the bigger life questions.
  5. Be – don’t filter out any information for now and forgo any judgment. Question everything. Habits and values imposed by upbringing, society – authority in any shape or form – fears and beliefs of what is right and wrong (and other complex feelings) disconnect us from the core of our being. Whatever you find out, it’s just information, not a court ruling. It’s entirely up to you what you do with it.
  6. Dare - be brave and face your truths in the most self-loving way possible. Forgive yourself (and others) for anything that’s in the way of moving forwards. If you chose to be fearless, what would be your next step?

Whatever is going on for you don’t let it be unnoticed. Life on autopilot is a life not lived to its full potential.

 Also by Jacinta:

- Getting Ready for the New Year

- Letting Go of Resistance

- Trusting Intuition

- Let’s Get Lost

- Seeking Clarity


About the author: Jacinta Hin was born in the Netherlands and has been living in Tokyo, Japan, since 1989. Her professional background is in human resources, career management and coaching. She is passionate about helping people, herself included, discover new perspectives of possibility, move to embracing and working with their transitions, and designing and realizing changes aligned with who they truly are and what they truly want from their lives. -
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